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The Emotion Scale

The emotion scale tells us that we have negative emotions where we are driven by fear and positive emotions where we are driven by love. 
 

Emotions

Our emotions help and guide us - if we accept them just as they are.

Usually, however, we do something else with them.

Turns off - Avoids

  • We avoid to rest and feel our feelings
  • We distract ourselves with activities
  • We don't dare to take contact 
  • We think feelings are in the way
  • We deny feelings
  • We close down
  • We escape into addictions

Let them Take Over and Decide

  • Emotions take over and control our everyday life
  • They can come from no where
  • Impulses are felt and take over our lives
  • They overwhelm us
  • They run away with us
  • They surprise us
  • They ride us
  • They decide how we act and behave
  • We escape into addictions

Invites and Accepts

  • We stop, pause and make contact
  • We accept that we feel the way we do
  • We put words to the feelings
  • We draw a picture of how it feels
  • We express the feeling in some way or another
  • We use breathing to help us
  • We know that the feelings guides us to know more about ourselves
  • We can handle the feelings

Grief / Sadness

A repressed sadness can be found under the ice, i.e. under the suppressed emotions. 

When we begin to get in touch with our feelings, grief can have a chance to surface. How then do we take care of the sadness that comes? If we are not used to crying or find crying too painful, what do we do then? 

Anger

When the anger starts to come to the surface and form a high wave and we are not used to its power. What do we do then?

Or when the irritation and anger, in the form of waves, are there almost all the time and have started to take over our lives. What do we do then?

Can the anger be handled and made something constructive of?

The important thing is that the anger is expressed and that it stays where it belongs as long as it is destructive, i.e. with ourselves. 

Acceptance of Feelings

When we feel what we feel, i.e. we are in touch with our feelings and can accept them exactly as they are, it becomes so much easier to understand each other.

We can then express what we feel, without accusing the other or shrinking ourselves. We can stand for what we think, feel and do/say. This means that we open up a dialogue where we respect each other.
 

Escape

This song could represent escape but also the importance of expressing your true self. What do you think?


 

Escape. We all have a tendency to escape from feeling bad, negative emotions, by entering into various addictions. It feels better for a while and life goes on. Addictions move us, for the moment, to a better state of mind. This escape takes us away from ourselves, from our soul, our true self.

Addictions can look different, here are some examples:
sugar, food, exercise, nicotine, coffee, drugs, alcohol, sex, work, gambling, shopping, TV-computer-phone, cleaning, compulsions. The same things can be something we enjoy and get pleasure from. 

So how can we tell if we do it out of escape or joy? Notice how you react when you stop doing it. If you get anxious and feel bad, it is probably an addiction. 

The important thing in the beginning is to note whether it is an escape or not. Every time I feel restless, tired, lack of energy, helplessness, anxiety, pain, I resort to .........